Posts by Chemical Emotions

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Spare the Rod and spoil the child, How did that work for you

by jam in

jw
friends

in proverbs there are several verses on the wisdom.

of using the rod for discipline.

the notion that children.

Chemical Emotions

Verbal abuse is as bad as physical abuse.

For some people like myself, the physical abuse told me "you deserve being hurt. Your body is not worth being respected. Your body does not belong to you. If you are hit, you should take it" That's what it teaches.You don't have to be told verbally that you're worthless to know that's what they think. The kisses and hugs never made up for being hit.

Some kids turn out fine or mostly fine. Some don't. Same thing with verbal abuse. It depends on the individual. I was called a brat, stupid, bitchy, etc. IT hurt like hell, and still does. But for me, the occasional spanking/slap hurt even more. It didn't last long, but it sent such a horrible message and fucked with my mind for years as I tried to reconcile love and concept of safety in family, with pain and punishments. I seemed fine, well-adjusted on the outside, and most people will never know, including my parents, how much it affected me. They think it was so rare and mild it made no real difference. How clueless they are. I don't want to hurt them o make them mad so I pretend everything's ok. I just pretend. That's all I ever do.

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Disgusting Words From A WT Apologist Regarding Candace.

by Bangalore in

jw
friends

source: http://www.topix.com/forum/religion/jehovahs-witness/trp8rlm4l1af9sn60.

who wants to be a millionaire--conti's way.. for those that attended the north freemont congregation or the oakley congregation in california from 1993 onward (hot attractive females preferred but not necessarily a prerequisite) you have millions and millions of dollars waiting for you.

the only requirement is that you knew jonathan kendrick while you were a minor after all his responsibilities were removed from him in the congregation.

Chemical Emotions

Um...lots of people sit during prayer, especially when with young children, and ESPECIALLY when they are holding the kid on their lap. Duh.

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a mysterious and unexplained picture by the WT

by cedric1er in

how does the watchtower justifie bibliquelly this very strange " hand " ?.

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to see a few secondes !.

Chemical Emotions

Laaame.

I lol'd at okage's post!

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Spare the Rod and spoil the child, How did that work for you

by jam in

jw
friends

in proverbs there are several verses on the wisdom.

of using the rod for discipline.

the notion that children.

Chemical Emotions

I like the last two comments...

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Strollers at DC

by InquiryMan in

if i understand it correctly, strollers are not allowed at us conventions.. in sweden, a letter was written to the congregation, introducing this new rule.

however, quite a few families wrote letters to the society,.

asking if they wanted families with children to attend the assemblies or not... it was stated that they would not go unless strollers were allowed.. the society pulled back, allowing strollers in designated areas.. in norway, they didn t even bother to introduce the rule in the first place... .

Chemical Emotions

siam said it best. :) Stupidass rules.

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Spare the Rod and spoil the child, How did that work for you

by jam in

jw
friends

in proverbs there are several verses on the wisdom.

of using the rod for discipline.

the notion that children.

Chemical Emotions

BOTR: yeah, service announcements, or SOMETHING like that might help a lot. I know that groups have done things like that, but it just doesn't happen often enough. At least not here in America.

I feel so sad for the posters on this thread who have been abused. I don't even know what to say anymore.

A certain poster's (double) post deserves a big

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Anderson Cooper is gay!!!

by laverite in

according to the la times, anderson cooper is gay and no one was surprised about it.

was anyone here shocked by the news?

http://www.latimes.com/news/opinion/opinion-la/la-ol-anderson-cooper-gay-20120702,0,1530321.story.

Chemical Emotions

Let's start the rumor that we saw him in a gay club sitting with Keith Olbermann.

I did, though. Really. :|

I didn't know Cooper was gay, but I feel indifferent about it. Also I like him.

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YPA 09/12 - What Can I Expect From Marriage? pt.1 (with snark)

by corpusdei in

another month, another ypa article just ripe for mocking.

(there's more snark here if you enjoy poking these articles as much as i do).

young people ask - what can i expect from marriage?

Chemical Emotions

Female prisoners of war can be kept as wives/concubines unless they don't please the husband, in which case she can be safely discarded - Duet. 21:13-14
It's alright to sell daughters as wives/concubines - Exod. 21:7-11
It's even alright to kidnap women and force them into marriage - Judg. 21:12,14, 23
Wives should be submissive baby-makers - 1 Tim 2:11-15
We're not kidding about the submissive thing - Eph. 5:22-24
Really. Not kidding at all - Col. 3:18
Not a bit. - 1 Pet. 3:1-2
They should also shut the hell up - 1 Cor. 14:33-35
If your wife isn't a virgin on her wedding night, it's OK to kill her - Duet. 22:20-21
Mixed marriages are bad and God gives the go-ahead to beat any children resulting from one - Neh. 13:23-27
It's also A-OK to walk out of your wife and kids if they're unbelievers - Ezra 10:2-44
You know what, it's better if you just don't get married at all - 1 Cor. 7:27-28

That was awesome. All of the snark was good, some was great, but that was just freakin' awesome.

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Ultimately it is the child who should stop the abuse according to the GB!

by life is to short in

on page 171 of the "learn from the great teacher" book published in 2003 it shows a picture of a very cute little girl holding a ragged ann doll.

she is sitting on a chair in her bedroom with her hand out toward a man that is coming toward her.. the paragraphs say "so just as jesus needed protection, you also need to be protected from grown-ups-and even from other children-who may try to have sex with you.

usually, these people will pretend to be your friends.

Chemical Emotions

Flipper, you are right as usual.

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Spare the Rod and spoil the child, How did that work for you

by jam in

jw
friends

in proverbs there are several verses on the wisdom.

of using the rod for discipline.

the notion that children.

Chemical Emotions

Thanks to chemical emotions for sharing her painful experiences.

I wish I knew 20 years ago what I know now. My daughter received not more than 3 "spankings" from me when she was about 3 1/2 to 4 years old. I'm pretty sure the issue each time was her blatantly rejecting parental authority. As a true-believing JW this needs to be corrected or her eternal life could be in jeopardy. The spankings were 2 or 3 bare handed swats to the bottom hard enough to sting a little but not enough to leave a (physical) mark. Never done in anger and always after a boring, long-winded explanation. Almost clinical in the way it was done. After the 3rd(?) spanking my heart told me that this was overkill. I felt horrible. I promised my daughter that no matter what happened in the future, I would NEVER spank her again. I'll have to ask her how her memory of this compares to mine.

My son, OTOH, had an iron butt. He probably got about 12 spankings from me. I can also remember his last one. After the boring speech and the stinging swats he just looked up at me unfazed. Right there I knew this a pointless and wrong-headed exercise. From then on he only got time-outs, natural consequences or loss of privileges.

So now I think I'm ready to be a half-way decent parent. Problem is, I'M ALL DONE. (Well, almost.)

First off, thanks and you're welcome.

Second, I really like your post. I think it shows why parents need help from society (not THE Society! )more than is given. Why does our society (at least, SOME in our society) spend much time condemning things like spanking, slapping, and swatting kids, but does (comparatively) little to help young/new parents to learn better disciplining techniques? It leaves children to be emotionally scarred (possibly) and parents feeling regret. Prevention is as important as treatment.

Kind of sucks, doesn't it?